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The Happiness tetrahedron

My definition of Happiness

I was just thinking about what really comprises Happiness for me.  Happiness is an essential for everyone, and it’s so generic and specific, all at the same time.  Generic as in what makes one Happy, can be similar across the board.  Yet again, it’s specific, private and personal to the individual.  The reason for the personal and private specificity lies in that we are all different, and encased in the same shell called human.  We have different thoughts, different emotions, and different actions.  One definition of Happiness may be common to a group of people, but what makes that definition peculiar to the individual is how that person interprets, feels, and acts upon it.  No one person is the same.

Having started this blog since January 2008, I’ve realised that I’ve not written down what Happiness really means to me here.  Three years early or late is not the issue.  The point is, I know what makes me Happy.  Do you know what makes you truly Happy?  Are you living your Happiness birthright right now?  What can you do to move forward to being truly Happy?

At different stages of human development, what makes us Happy changes accordingly.  For instance, as a child, being loved by your parents makes you Happy.  As a teenager, having many good friends and sports makes you Happy.  As an adult, success at work, lots of money, and having a happy family makes you Happy.  As a senior, seeing your children get married and taking care of your grandchildren makes you Happy.  The definition of Happiness is fluid and ever-changing to our current needs and wants.

After a good, long think, I realised that there are some components of Happiness that are constant and stable for me.  These are my Happiness ‘juice’ – a never-ending supply that continuously makes me Happy.  Interestingly, they fit nicely into a tetrahedral shape, which I call as “My Happiness tetrahedron”.  Tetrahedrons are one of the strongest, if not the strongest, structures known.  You can see my Happiness tetrahedron below.

The Happiness tetrahedron

In the Happiness tetrahedron above, you can see 5 words – Spirituality, Love, Wealth, Health, and Peace.  These 5 words make up the tetrahedron.

This is my Happiness tetrahedron which depict what makes me Happy.  Firstly, spirituality is very important to me.  Being in touch with who I am at the spiritual level organises everything in the manner and form that’s appropriate for me.  Secondly, love makes me Happy and fulfilled with life and people, especially my loved ones.  Thirdly, wealth is important as a vehicle for material prosperity.  It is the oil that makes the engines of my life smoother and easier to transport from one destination to another.  Fourthly, health is very important as well.  Health makes me Happy and able to enjoy and appreciate the things and people in life.  Lastly, peace.  Being at peace is something that makes me Happy.  I enjoy the stillness and tranquility.  Especially in the hustle and bustle of life, peace is even more valuable to me.

I’ll be sharing more on my Happiness tetrahedron in the future.  What makes you Happy?  What is your Happiness tetrahedron?  I will love to hear from you.

September 1, 2011   1 Comment

Shanshine! All in good time!

Happy is the person who distils the essence and takes what they need from the vast sea of knowledge. - Yip Pei Shan

I attended a video viewing yesterday of a spiritual conference that was held about a month ago in Minneapolis.

Here are some of my thoughts on the nuggets of wisdom shared during the conference.

  1. The overriding theme was ‘All in good time’.  My understanding here is a good time is different for everyone of us.  What’s a good time for you may not be a good time for another, and vice versa.  A good time here is referring to our thoughts and actions leading to various consequences of our choice.  Simply put, a cause-and-effect phenomenon.  You reap what you sow.
  2. Playing with the word ‘good’, we can come up with the word ‘God’ by omitting an “o”.  Now I see how ‘God is Good’ sounds and looks so good.
  3. Fill our hearts and minds with love and gratefulness to the brim.  Leave no room for negativities and escape the sea of toxins, which kill the sweet goodness in our lives.
  4. The voice and light of God sustains the melody of life.

I see some positive attributes appearing here – spirituality lends strength to people, love, responsibility, and gratitude.  Wonderful!

May 9, 2011   No Comments

Shanshine.com’s expanding! Woohoo~!

Dear loved ones

Shanshine is getting an infusion of even more powerful and original content!  Now, on top of the usual inspiring Happiness and Positive Psychology articles, I will expand the Happiness theme to include health and spirituality!

In a Happy nutshell, Shanshine will now write on:

  • Happiness & Positive Psychology
  • Inspirational
  • Health
  • Spirituality

Shanshine will have the usual well-written academic and researched articles, and some entries here will be more conversational in style to share my experiences on entrepreneurship and business start-ups.

I’ll add in my free “Positive tip of the day” from my Shanshine Facebook page as well.  If you enjoy reading them, add your photo to the Shanshinetion (A nation of Shanshiners!) and join in the fun!

Life is a game.  Let’s play it well together!

Shanshine smiles,

Shanshine!

May 3, 2011   No Comments

Free Stories-Alive! series: People live and L.O.V.E.

My beloved friends,

Following my light-hearted story of Riiibbitt! Ed and Jason! which received a standing ovation, I will be sharing on People live and L.O.V.E. tomorrow evening at my home club!

People live and love.  People live and L.O.V.E.  What does “L.O.V.E.” mean?  Journey with me as I take you on Shan’s rollercoaster of L.O.V.E.

I invite you to the fourth of five installments in my Stories-Alive! series in Singapore.  Details as follows:

  • Title: People live and L.O.V.E.
  • Venue: Bishan Toastmasters Club, Bishan Community Club, Level 3, Lecture Room 1, Singapore
  • Date: 20 January 2008
  • Time: 7-10pm

I look forward to seeing you there!

With love,
Pei Shan

January 19, 2009   1 Comment

What are your signature strengths? A tabulation of the VIA virtues and strengths

In an earlier article, What is Positive Psychology? (Part 2), I mentioned the Values in Action (VIA) Classification of Strengths Manual. This VIA was formulated after three years of extensive research into various sources such as religion and philosophy. As a tool, the VIA is indeed commendable for labelling our strengths, however, as it is relatively infant in usage, discretion should be exercised. I found the VIA Institute on Character’s exercises on using our strengths in innovative ways thought-provoking, and is definitely worth trying out!

Here is a tabulation of strengths classified under each virtue, Wisdom and Knowledge, Courage, Humanity and Love, Justice, Temperance, and Transcendence (Seligman, 2002).
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March 22, 2008   6 Comments