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Category — How can Positive Psychology be applied?

Live your life!

This brings back some memories from a few years back.  It came back into my radar when I was listening to some music.  I like to play different music during my FUNshops on Positive Psychology.  This is one of them, and it’s hilarious to see my FUNshoppers in action!  They do not just listen to the music.  Things happen! (*.^)  Want to satisfy your curiosity?  You need to get into the action to find out!  Join me here!

Are you living your life?

Are you living your life – right now?

T.I. ft. Rihanna – Live Your Life

May 23, 2011   No Comments

The mathematics game of plus (+) and minus (-)

Simple mathematics formula for positive interactions and communications

This is for the mathematician in us.  I was having a conversation some time back, and this idea on plus (+) and minus (-) came up.

Let’s take the plus as positive and a ‘yes’.  Likewise, the minus as negative, a ‘no’, ‘but’ - counter-intuitive to the plus.  In formula, it would look like this:

+ = positive, yes

– = negative, no, but

Placing these into the context of conversation, we have 3 interesting types of sentences derived with these surmisings.

The first is the ‘yes, and’ sentence.  In formula, it would look like this:

++=+ (yes, and)

For example, “Yes, that is an excellent way to go about that, and … ”

The second is the ‘yes, but’ sentence.  In formula, it would look like this:

+-=- (yes, but)

For instance, “Yes, that is an excellent way to go about that, but … ”

Lastly, the third is the ‘no, no, yes’ sentence.  In formula, it would look like this:

–=+ (no, no, eventually cancels out and becomes yes)

For illustration, “That is not a bad way to go about that.”

Yes, and … ++

I like the first sentence type best.  It is the most reinforcing and optimistic communication we should encourage in our daily interactions.  With mathematics, we can easily remember to be positive in our communications.  What comes out as words, goes through our hearts and minds first.

The second type of sentence, ‘yes, but’, is just, ‘yes, but’.  The ‘but’ negates all the good that came before that, making what you said redundant.  This is the most ineffective type of sentence to use, especially when you are trying to get your point across, make things work out smoothly or soothe hurt feelings.

The third type of sentence, ‘no, no, yes’ is a roundabout way of saying two negatives to make one positive.  It is far simpler and nicer to say it positively, rather than taxing your overworked brain cells on working out more ‘maths’ in your speech.

And, yes, and …

And, yes, use the ‘yes, and’ sentence more in your conversations with people.  Keep in mind ‘++=+” and you will see more amazing human flourishings automatically!

March 3, 2011   No Comments

Boing boing! Resilience, adversity quotient, and tenacity

Shan’s musing on resilience and tenacity: An experience to inspire

On the theme of resilience and tenacity, this came to mind.

Life is like bumper cars. You take a few knocks along the way, smile; life still goes on. – Yip Pei Shan

Resilience (n.d.) is defined as an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change.  To quantify and qualify, the adversity quotient (AQ) is the science of human resilience.

Change is the only constant. - Heraclitus

This is one of my favourite quotes from this famous Greek Philosopher known for his change universal theory. Change and resilience are closely interwined.  Everyone experiences change on an intimate basis.  Change may be good, bad, or neutral.  It is a state of difference, not of constance.

Life is full of constant changes. We experience changes in life stages (transitioning from womb to tomb), social, emotional, mental, physical, and lifestyles.

There is one interesting experience I still remember to this day. [Read more →]

June 3, 2009   2 Comments

Words of wisdom: Constant change, certain death

The only thing constant about life is change, and the only thing certain about life is death. – Yip Pei Shan

One of the philosophies I’ve had in life is that change is the only constant.  This proverb was inspired with the influx of changes this month – competing in speech contests, my birthday celebrations, the passing away of a friend, etc.

It brings to the fore the fragility of life.  Have you done and said the things that matter most to you?

April 28, 2009   No Comments

Smiles and hearts: Mr. sweet sincere smile

A smile is a heart-to-heart communication: it emanates from your heart, radiates on your face, and lights up the hearts of others – Yip Pei Shan

Remember this proverb I created in March this  year?  I have been noticing so many beautiful smiles, I am going to make it a point to compliment the Shanshine Smilers in Singapore!

I’m going to get hold of Aishah’s shanshiney smile to light up the hearts of many more!

I was bowled over by Chin Hong, another Shanshine Smiler this evening at Bakerzin, United Square.  Impeccable service with a sweet and sincere disposition, Chin Hong has been with Bakerzin for two weeks.  An Electrical and Electronic Engineering student from the Singapore Polytechnic, this is his second part-time job, with his first part-time job at a furniture outlet at Sungei Road Gardens during the weekends.

I salute you, Chin Hong, Mr. sweet sincere smile!

PS.  More Shanshine Smilers here!

September 15, 2008   No Comments